because the struggle to talk about mental health, and be mentally healthy, is real.

Well hey there!  

Vanessa and Kalee here.

We think that talking about mental health should be as easy as talking about the weather. So we've created a series of videos and podcasts dedicated to helping you become the most mental health savvy human you can be. What kinds of things do we talk about? That's a great question... I knew you were smart. Some of the topics we cover are how to better relate to mental health problems, how to have a conversation about mental health, and how to best support a friend who is having a hard time.

Also - news flash!! - you don't have to have a mental illness diagnosis to struggle with your mental health. We want you to be the most mentally healthy person you can be! So to help you get there we're going to cover topics like how to have an assertive communication style, how to have the healthiest relationships, warning signs and helpful tricks for dealing with anxiety and depression, and what to do if you feel like you're being bullied. 

Do you have some ideas about a topic you wish we would cover? I knew you would! Send us an email at thementalhealthstruggleisreal@gmail.com. 


Treat Yo' Self

Let’s face it. We’re almost always WAY nicer to our loved ones (or even strangers!) than we are to ourselves... And it turns out that being super mean and critical of yourself can put you at risk for mental health problems! Today we want to talk about a kind of thinking style (or cognitive lens for all you fancypants out there!) that acts like a protective shield against, well, ourselves! And how crappy we can be to ourselves! We’re talking about SELF-COMPASSION and how important it is for you and your mental health to give yourself a break every now and then. 

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Why Self-Compassion Works Better than Self-Esteem: http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/05/why-self-compassion-works-better-than-self-esteem/481473/

Everything You Could Ever Want to Know About Self-Compassion:



SO, you’ve decided that it might be helpful to get some professional mental health support. AWESOME! 100 bonus grown up points for you. But how do you actually do that!? Where do you go?? Who ya gonna call?? Certainly not the ghost busters. This week we’re all about how learning how to actually get help. Because the worst thing you can do is wait until you need help to try to figure out how to navigate this confusing system! We cover the difference between the services you can get from your family dr, a community counsellor, a clinical psychologist, and a psychiatrist, as well as some other mental health supports you should know about. 

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Getting help is hard!

If you’ve been following along week by week you’ll know that we’ve been throwing a LOT of information at you so far about the things you can do to improve or protect your mental health. Talk about mental health! Be aware of your emotions! Manage your emotions in a healthy way! Make sure you have enough (and the right kind of) social support! We sound a bit like a naggy mom (no offense mom..). So this week we wanted to change gears and focus on what someone else can do to help you with your mental health! And no, we’re not talking about the guy who says he will heal your mind for five easy instalments of $19.99. Seeking professional mental health support is hard for so many reasons… There’s a lot of stigma around needing help with your mental health, and with being “in therapy”! There’s also just the scary question of “When do I actually need to seek professional help?” To help you understand the benefits of seeking help, when you should actually pick up the phone to make that call, and some of the most common misconceptions or barriers to seeking help, we interviewed a phenomenal clinical psychologist here in Kingston, Ontario.

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The barriers to seeking help (stigma, knowing when is the right time, etc.) and how to over come them: http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/01/14/what-prevents-people-from-seeking-mental-health-treatment/

Five signs you should be seeking professional support:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/where-science-meets-the-steps/201303/5-signs-its-time-seek-therapy


Who's got your back??

Having good support in our lives is amazing… It means someone is there to pick you up when you’re feeling down, make you laugh when it’s hard to smile, and to feed you pizza when you’re too hungry to move. But sometimes we have to step back and make sure that the people supporting us are actually giving us the kind of support that we need! Check out our latest video, podcast, and articles to learn more about how social support actually changes your body’s way of handling stress, how long this has been beneficial, and the kinds of faux-supporters you may have to watch your back around. 

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what we see depends on what we're looking for

Whenever we're experiencing a big emotion, our brains try to do us a big favor by looking for evidence to support us (your brain's got your back). But, the problem with this is that it prevents us from seeing anything in our environments that would contradict how we're thinking and feeling. Psychologists call this phenomenon a "confirmation bias" and we're here this week to talk about what the heck that means, how to recognize when YOU'RE using it, and how to kick this bias in the face when it's getting in your way. 


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How anxiety warps your perception:  http://www.bbc.com/future/story/20160928-how-anxiety-warps-your-perception

Confirmation Bias (seeing what you want, or maybe don't want, to see): https://www.verywell.com/what-is-a-confirmation-bias-2795024